We have all been there, those terrible days after a breakup when all you want to do is stay in the bed, hide under the covers and cry. No matter who ended it, breakups are always hard.Like many people, you might not handle breakups in the healthiest way. Maybe you turn to food or drinks for comfort. Or perhaps you keep blaming yourself for what went wrong. Whatever your coping style, you may be looking for a better way to heal.To help you heal and move forward, we have put together a list of things you can do to feel better and start mending your broken heart.
Accept your emotions: It is natural to want to feel better but ignoring or denying your feelings won't help. Healing starts with accepting your emotions and allowing yourself to grieve. A breakup is a great loss and it can bring confusion and sadness. Taking the time to process these emotions is important for moving forward.
Remove the reminders:One of the first steps in healing after a breakup is removing anything that reminds you of your ex. This may mean setting clear boundaries, deleting them from social media and letting friends and family know you are not ready to talk about them yet. Creating distance can help you move on, although it is easier said than done, so it might seem difficult but it is essential that you do so.
Closure:Breaking off contact is not always enough to help you move on. True closure comes from processing your emotions in a healthy way. Meeting your ex for closure may seem like a good idea but it depends on the situation and it often brings more pain. Instead, talk to friends, practice self-care and focus on personal growth to help ease the hurt and move forward. Another way to have a closure is to write a message to your ex, expressing everything you did not get to say. However, do not send it. The act of writing helps release emotions and bring closure. Sending an emotional message might lead to regret or leave you wondering about their reaction. Instead, write it for yourself as a way to process your feelings and move on. Closure is not just about letting go, it is also about recognizing what you gained from the relationship. Even if it did not last, it still added value to your life. Healing becomes easier when you see it as an experience that helped you grow rather than time wasted.
Self-care: Healing after a breakup starts with self-care. Eat well, stay active, maintain good hygiene and get enough rest. Focus on rediscovering yourself and doing things that make you happy. Think about all the good things you have in your life and the life that you had lived before they came, these small acts of introspection and self-care can lift your mood and help you feel better. You had spent many years before they came to your and you can easily go back to the similar lifestyle when they had left you. You can also visit any of your favourite food outlets and eat any of your favourite dishes to feel better however, do not over indulge yourself into eating. These things can help you divert your mind from the memories of your ex.
Do not isolate yourself: Isolating yourself after a breakup might feel natural, but it won’t help you heal. Instead, make an effort to reach out to family and friends. Spend time with people who care about you, share some good moments with them and do something fun together. Surrounding yourself with support not only helps you heal but also keeps your mind off your ex
Accept that it is over:Holding onto the hope for a reunion can keep you stuck. In most cases, the relationship won’t restart, so it is important to accept that it is over and focus on moving forward. Waiting for your ex to change their mind will only leave you in stuck in a place which very distressing and toxic. Similarly, overthinking what went wrong or how you could have changed won’t help. Learn from the experience, but do not let it trap you in the past. The past cannot be changed and but your certainly have the power to shape your present and influence your future. What is gone once, is very unlikely to return the same way it was earlier. Even if your ex does come back, they will never be the same like they used to be and the second time when they come back, you would not be loving the same person who left you. So, it is better to move forward instead of dwelling in the past and wasting your time in something that is not going to do you any good.
Getting over a break is not as easy as it seems however, with proper focus and the feeling of moving on, leaving behind the bad memories of the past can be your greatest tool to move forward in your life, accepting the lessons that the relationship had taught and preventing you to fall for the wrong type of person.
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